Is the Universe fine tuned to sustain life ?

A few days ago I had a discussion with one of microscopic number of creationists here in the Netherlands who argued her perception of a fine tuned universe especially made to sustain life..

Of course I could not say anything to change her mind, but I might have started a thinking process..

Seeing the chaotic dispersion of matter we can observe from earth there is very few indication any order (tuning) at all..
Tuning is the creating of that order I always use my small workshop to picture this in an understandable way .

My workshop is tuned better than the universe, Every tool is in the right place, the most frequently used is the closest at hand , the special tools are further away but still easy to pick because there is a system, order I arranged around the vice , the general tool and workplace on my work bench.

The Universe is like a big cardboard box where the tools are carelessly thrown in after use and when you need them again it takes more time to dig up the right tool than the time you need to repair the object you are working on.

Tuning must be performed by an intelligent force like a sentient being.
In my workshop I am that being someone to arrange everything

The ignorance of religion calls it God when it comes to the Universe.

The universe is the most dangerous place of incomprehensible violent destruction and creation you can ever imagine, places in the cosmos that are gentle towards life are so rare that they are almost non existing.

Picture yourself in the middle of the African Sahara with nothing else than sand , as far as the eye can see..

Try to imagine every grain of sand as a celestial body in the Universe every star and planet.  Now pick up a hand full of sand and that you have in your hand are there you have the possible number of grains of sand that represent places that are more a less friendly to life..

The rest of the universe is Everything is violent, the birth of a star is an explosion of radiation that would disintegrate life to the sub molecular level in a fraction of a second should it be too near of the event .

There is no way of shielding against this destructive radiation.

If the universe is fine tuned by God, he did a terrible job doing so.

The only place we feel fairly safe is the planet we live on and our source of sustaining life  we call the sun . But the sun is also bombarding us with radiation every second, minute, year .. The powerful magnetic field of the Earth disperses most of the solar radiation like a shield in StarTrek but should this field seize to exist, the Sun would become the destructor of all the life on earth.. A few minutes unprotected outside the atmosphere will kill you because there is nothing to breathe..

The universe tuned for life ? ..

If (a) God tuned it, he more likely  created the ultimate minefield around an inescapable "prison resort" we call home.. Earth..

Where would we go ? there is no outside, only a dangerous trip to possible other places that are friendly to life, but they are as few in the Universe as the grains of sand you can hold in your hand compared to all the sand in the Sahara desert

added april 22:

Sail onward, 'till you can't see the horizon.

Space is an ocean..

When ships to sail the void between the stars have been invented there will also be men who come forward to sail those ships.

— Johannes Kepler

 IF the universe would be fine tuned for life, there would be no problem to hop from planet to planet. There would be no vacuum and  breathable air everywhere, It would not be filled with the deadly radiation of exploding stars, black holes or gas clouds of poisonous gases..  Sailing the planets would be common like the trade routs in earth history.   Our solar system would be like all the  continents and islands on earth, space would be like the oceans, and like the (to me) unknown painter of the picture, lots of people have fantasized about this, like visualizing a child's dream..
But it isn't..
The reality is that the Universe is SO hostile to life, that to only survive life needs protection ANYWHERE and always....  Without Earth's powerful magnetic field to protect life, it would be as hostile as the rest of the universe.

People always seem to ask "what is the purpose of life?" 
Personally I would like tho think , the purpose of mankind is to evolve their species' intelligence to a level that they can develop the means to spread out in the universe..
But to achieve this, lots of barriers have to be removed that limit the ultimate obstruction of assimilating knowledge
The almost unclimbable mountains of human greed and the unbreakable wall created by religious dogma of almost all religions... 
Religious dogma that has people believing: 

There's an invisible man ... living in the sky. Who watches everything you do every minute of every day. And the invisible man has a list of ten specific things he doesn't want you to do. And if you do any of these things, he will send you to a special place, of burning and fire and smoke and torture and anguish for you to live forever, and suffer, and suffer, and burn, and scream, until the end of time. But he loves you. He loves you and he wants MONEY..

 George Carlin (May 12, 1937 – June 22, 2008)

If humanity cannot overcome these barriers, the crawling of mankind will never become steps or  strides forward to reach this goal, or even totally come to a halt